My new quote "我是一只打不死的蟑螂" =)

Thursday 17 May 2012 09:53

Hi everyone!!! How are you today? I hope everything goes well at your end. =)

Well, seems like things are not going my way lately. =/ If you are facing the same situation, may I know how did you/do you deal with it?

Last night I was almost out of the mood and suddenly I found a new way to motivate myself and feel happy again. I never felt like this before.

I used to be a pessimistic person. I may look bubbly from the outside, but in fact, I was not as bubbly as I looked. Most of the times, I chose to hide and avoid the fact or sometimes I would let the "moody devil" to take over me. I would let myself slack the whole day, trying to become a trash. I would tell myself "Yes! this is it! I am just a rubbish and rubbish lives like this. No one would understand how I feel, I can only feel sorry for myself. ... " and the negatives thoughts would go on and on and on till I fall asleep and continued the next day.

Did/do you act like this???? Please DON'T!!! If you didn't notice, the title of my blog is "CHIN UP!! LIFE GOES ON!!"

It is NOT the end of the world. If you are broke, just accept the fact and try to look for a way to earn back those pennies! If you failed in your exams, try to look back at yourself for the answer. If it's YOU who didn't work hard enough OR if you have used a wrong way to study, try to ask for advice and work hard for the next exam. If you just broke up with your bf/gf, well, all I can say is, live for yourself! Go do the things you have longed to do. Stop asking why she/he dumped you OR stop asking why he/she cheated you. That's NOT the point anymore. What is done, is done. If you can forgive and forget, then the relationship won't ended up like this.

I am not saying that we are NOT allow to feel sad/moody. We are still human being. We have emotions. Just that we need to learn how to control our emotions and how to conquer the devil (bad mood) within. Instead of waiting for others to comfort us, instead of waiting for your loved one to encourage/motivate you, WHY NOT you yourself start to do this your own? You're responsible for your own life. When you face a problem and couldn't find WHY it happened. Then skip the WHY and continue to HOW. How to sort things out and What are the steps you need to do. I know it's not as simple as it seems. I personally think if you really want to help yourself, then you have to try doing things your own. I believe everyone wants to live a happy life.

Usually, if I am moody, I would prefer to stay at home and do nothing. Then my mind would keep playing all the negative stuffs. I would continue asking myself "Why are these happening to me?? Why am I in such a bad luck?? Why I can't sort things out the way I want? Why??" and my mood would go worst. You see. I didn't want to accept the fact but kept questioning and not trying to find a solution.

Last night, I received a bad news. I felt disappointed. In fact, these few months have not been smooth for me. There were a lot of ups and downs and things were not going my way. As usual, I feel moody and wanted to stay at home. Suddenly, my housemate came to knock at my door and invited me to play badminton. Out of the blue, I went like "SURE! Let's go!" (this is unusual for me)

We played badminton for 2 hours long and I felt fresh again. During the game, I wasn't thinking about my problems anymore. For that time, I just want to enjoy the game and make sure I sweat. Hahahaha..

When we arrived home, I was left alone. I thought I would feel moody again. However, I did not. Instead, I tried to look for a solution. I didn't ask myself WHY anymore. I tried to think differently.

Finally, I feel relief and happy again. I told myself "what doesn't kill me, makes me stronger! 我是一只打不死的蟑螂!" =P

There's ALWAYS a second chance in life UNLESS you decided NOT to TRY anymore. So people, PLEASE stay POSITIVE. Life's too short to worry for Tomorrow! Live for Today and never regret for Yesterday.

You may Not be the Best today. However, if you NEVER give up trying and improving, you can become the BEST one day. Be Confidence!! Don't feel sad for people who don't appreciate you. Feel happy that you are NOT giving up yourself.

Nothing is WORST than you GIVING UP yourself when others DON'T.

I love hiking coz it is challenging and fun. It helps to relax your mind and souls. Climbing can be dull if you only think of WHEN you can reach to the TOP. However, climbing can be awesome if you starts to enjoy the breathtaking scenery along the tracks, starts enjoying the breeze of the air, and observe every little steps you take. Hiking is another way to escape from the busy life. =) Hiking is more than just an exercise.

Something to share =)

Thursday 17 May 2012 09:14

你或許不完全同意，但本文值得一讀。

♡怎麼去愛一個男人♡

年輕時，我們不懂愛。我們以為不許他抽煙，是為了不讓他得肺癌；不許他喝酒，是為了保護他的肝；不許他看通宵，不許他上網，是為了保證他的睡眠；不許他和朋友打牌、上館子，是為了不讓他荒廢事業，一事無成。
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愛他，我們就要給他一定的空間。我們不能因為愛，就剝奪了他的愛好和自由。男人抽煙喝酒，就像女人逛街穿衣一樣，那是一種由衷的快樂。沒有了它，男人就少了太多的快樂。所以，如果不是嗜煙酗酒，如果不至於影響健康，那麼，抽煙的時候幫他點火，喝酒的時候陪他來兩杯吧！也許你會發現，他的快樂其實就是你的快樂。

男人喜歡什麼，陪他就好了，窩在他的懷裡，看他笑，看他狂，看他喪氣，你只要陪著他就好，不要抱怨，也許當時他把你忘了，以至於你睡著了，他都不知道， 但是，當他忙完時，他一定會溫柔地抱起你。男人愛上網，你就讓他上吧，有些時候，男人可以在網中找到成就感，找到英雄感，人總要有點精神寄託的。男人當然更是少不了朋友的，只要他不是夜夜笙蕭，偶爾和朋友聚聚，你該為他高興。一個有朋友的人，他才不會孤獨，不會偏執。不要嫉妒他的朋友，不要說你沒有他的朋友重要，一個人的一生中，除了愛情，親情，他還需要友情的。

擁有時，我們不懂愛，易把親近當疏遠。我們會發現，我們愛的那個男人對誰都好。他在車上可以和陌生人親切的交談；他看見有老人會熱心地讓座；他在路上跟每一個熟悉的人打招呼；在外面他似乎事事周全，可是，唯有對我們，他是那樣的容易忽略。他會忘了你的生日，他會忘了陪你逛街，甚至放假後，他倒頭就睡，他竟然都不陪你說話。你很疑惑，為什麼， 為什麼這個男人他對誰都好，唯獨對我毫不重視？他陪朋友可以聊到深夜，為什麼面對我竟無話可說，為什麼讓他陪我看電視，他就說累了要睡覺？親愛的，千萬不要這樣想，他對誰都好，對誰都周全，那是因為他和他們有距離。男人是很虛榮的，他要面子，他也要應酬。而你，你是他的愛人，在他眼裡，你就是自己人，他無須在你面前活得那樣累。所以，你要明白一點，男人對你忽略，其實，正是把你當作自己一樣的看待。所以，不要抱怨他忽略你，記住，只要他能在和別人親切交談的時候緊握著你的手，在晚上睡覺的時候緊抱著你的身軀，那麼，你就無須自己折磨自己。你要相信，他愛你就像愛自己。

擁有時，我們不懂愛，易把任性當撒嬌。愛一個人就有權利霸道地說：“不要穿那件衣服，難看死了。穿這件，這是我新給你買的。”張曉風在《一個女人的愛情觀》裡如是說。其實，很多女人在她們的男人面前都是這樣霸道任性的。我們以為愛他，就有權利要他這樣，不要他那樣。我們以為愛他，就可以翻看他的口袋，看他的聊天記錄，檢查他的郵箱。我們以為愛他，當然就可以在他面前毫無隱瞞的發洩我們的情緒。

我們可以霸道，可以任性，只要我們的霸道能讓他體會到我們的依賴，只要我們的任性能夠讓他開心，那麼所有的情緒都是可愛的撒嬌：在寂靜的夜裡，你蹭在他的懷裡，不肯去睡是撒嬌；走累的時候，你說走不動了要他背你，是撒嬌；在他生氣的時候，你搖搖他的胳膊，親親他的臉蛋是撒嬌。總之，撒嬌是愛情的調味品， 是親暱愛戀的自然流露，撒嬌絕不是吵架的導火線。當我們的撒嬌變成了一種執拗，當我們的任性變得不講道理，當我們的愛戀變成了不信任。親愛的，愛情將和我 們 漸行漸遠。

擁有時，我們不懂愛，易把懷疑當調侃。
我們愛他，真的，這種愛甚至可以深入骨髓。我們以為世界上只有這個男人最好，我們以為我們愛的男人，別的女人也一定喜歡。於是，我們把他含在口裡怕化了，捧在手裡怕碎了。我們不知道該怎樣珍惜才好，我們變得患得患失，神經緊張。

因為愛他，所以，我們害怕失去。我們惟恐一不小心，他就被哪個女人給拐跑了。於是，我們開始失去自我，我們開始敏感多疑。

愛他，我們就要相信他。只有你相信他，你才能更加幸福。因為你感覺到了幸福，你才會更愛他，而他也將更加愛你。而懷疑一旦植入你的心中，你的愛便在一點點消失。因為，你總把他往壞裡想，自然，心理暗示著自己一天天遠離他。你在痛苦中煎熬，你傷害著自己，也傷害著愛人。愛不是佔有，愛是寬容是寬厚，是通達是理解。


～歡迎分享～

One of those days.............

Friday 10 May 2012 17:30

I wonder how many of you would actually switch your mobile to "silent mode" or turn off instead before you hit the sack?

I would and will always switch my mobile to "silent mode" or sometimes turn it off instead because I am easily awake even it's only a beep or a flash from the mobile phone. Over time, I found that it affected my beauty sleep and realised that it would be best for me to just switch it to silent mode. Although, I did check out my phone in between to see if I had any miss calls or text messages. Apparently, it was when I had a bf. hahahaaha (I know switching to silent mode is still not helping) However, the difference between me waking up to check on the phone and being awake by the mobile is solely because of the mood - happy (if I am expecting a text from someone) or annoyed (if I am awake by the text and not expecting anything from anyone).

Previously, I had a worst experience where some of my friends just like to play "miss calls" game. They kept calling you and hung up in just seconds and did it over and over again. Of course, when I was awake, I would try to answer their calls as quickly as possible just for the sake to make them go "arghhh! shiet! she got me!" and had a good laugh myself. hahahaha! But, those were the old times and I got fed up now. =P Plus, after I've decided to switch my mobile to "silent mode", my friends never call anymore, not when they know it's my bedtime. =)

Anyway, I received a text from a friend today ranting about him kept waking up by phone calls. As usual, I didn't show concern yet I just told him off "you know, there's always an option called "silent mode"? even Nokia 3310 had one" ... and thought he would reply the same like one of my friend whom faced the same situation before, went like "yeah! I know! I just never want to silent my mobile that's all =("

Unexpectedly, when the reply came back, it went like "not mobile smart ass. it's a house phone"

Yeah! "EPIC FAILED" and so *face palm*

Dilemma thoughts.. Hmmmm

Friday 4 May 2012 14:06

Have you ever felt miserable out of the sudden and didn't know how to deal with it? Did you ever wake up with a smile yet felt empty inside?

I don't know. I am not sure. I don't like this feeling.

Did you work 7 days a week but once you got a day off, you didn't know what to do? 

Did you ever receive a lot of text messages from your friends still you feel that loneliness is still kicking your ass?

If you do feel the same like how I'm feeling right now, may I know how you deal with this kinda situation?

Sometimes, I feel like I am not who I am again. Sometimes, I feel that I am faking myself to be happy. Sometimes, I am not sure what I want in Life anymore. Sometimes, I feel tired and fed up of what I am doing.

Perhaps, I am waiting for the right one. Perhaps, I am loosing faith of getting the TRUE Love. Perhaps, and more ridiculous Perhaps.

I know there's always a KEY through every doors. I know this is one of the barriers I have to go through. I know that there's no time for a looser or a weak. I believe in the Law of Attraction, where the way you feel and think will change the way life goes.

No matter what situation you are in now, just don't ever lose faith for yourself. No matter how hard your life can be right now, just don't forget to SMILE!!! Never compare yourself with others, compare yourself with YOU from yesterday, see if you have improved and see if you need to improve. =)

Everyone is UNIQUE, so are you. =) Don't get jealous for the success of others for you can be the same too if you know what you want in life, and you know how to get there. SUCCESS is not to be fame or rich, SUCCESS is to be able to improve yourself and upgrade yourself. Most importantly, to be a happy person is a SUCCESS.. =) SUCCESS can be ANYTHING in life. ^^

Never forget my favourite quote "Smile for all reasons" , be it good or bad... you are who you want to be. =)

爱情需要经营

Wednesday 06 April 2011 14:28

很多人都一致认同爱情是神圣的。爱情是几乎每个人的生活中都必经的一个过程。你认同吗？

小时候，我对爱情的误解就是，能够一起结婚到老，就是爱情。 长大了，爱情则是两个相爱的男女幸福快乐的在一起，不离不弃的，包容对方的好与坏。 换句话说，爱情是盲目的，情人眼中出西施就是爱情的魔力。

现在，提到“爱情” 这两个字，给我很多不同的想法，和一些复杂的心情。

其实，不管从小的爱情观念和长大以后有多大分别。生活当中就是离不开吵架这个事实。更逃不过悲哀或伤心的时候。

那么，都该如何去面对呢？想问问， 有多少人，会在伤心的时候想一些开心的事呢？

许多人，最常犯的错误，就是伤心时，就爱注射给自己不好的想法，让自己越来越悲，越来越沮丧。而且，还狂想着另一半的错，期望他可以向自己道歉，认错，和讨自己开心。要是没有，就一直和对方冷战下去，直到对方投降为此。

但是，这样做，只会伤到这段感情。把小事搞得不可收拾的余地。值得吗？就算，等到其中一方投降认输了，这段感情也会留下隐形的疤痕。更不值得原谅的是，吵架当中，对对方说一些很伤感的话，而且是不真实的狠话。

“忍一时，风平浪静，退一步，海阔天空” 这句名言，很多人都会。可是，有多少人懂得去运用？如果，你们珍惜你们的爱情，不管是男方或女方不对也好，只要任何一方愿意退一步，一切都可以海阔天空。大事化小，小事化无。

所以，一对情侣吵架的时候，与其一直转牛角尖，倒不如回想一下他/她为你做过的好事，和一起开心的事，那不是更好的解药吗？

我没有说这是一件很容易的事情。当然，要是你懂得如何去经营你的爱情，那么幸福不就掌握在自己的手中了吗？

Normal Pictures

Monday 28 March 2011 11:16

The other day, I was chatting as usual via MSN. Like everyone does, I displayed my favourite photo. ^_^

I have not get asked from any of my friends though about the displaying picture I showed until that very day.

A friend: " I wonder why girls love to display this kind of pictures but not the normal pictures?" (something like this)
Me : " ......... er.... what did you mean by normal pictures??"

The first thing that crossed my mind was passport pictures - "normal pictures" like this ...

Where you need to sit real straight, head straight, show your ears, clear look of your face, not wearing hat nor spectacles, almost "naked" and DULL and BORING... Hey! I look so ... so ..... =.=

Okay! This picture will definitely be REJECTED by the home office if you ever wear spectacles to take the picture. I think they don't like to see your Nerdy look... lol

Or perhaps this one! Sorry I just can't help but to edit a bit on the picture so that it won't look so DULL.

So, what I'm trying to say is, everyone's "normal pictures" point of view are different. As long as the person in the pictures is the owner himself/herself (whether he/she is looking at the camera or not.. hahahaha) as long as the pictures are not scandles, then that's the "normal pictures". ^_^

FYI, I was showing this Displaying Picture on my msn.. hahaha.. ERRmmm.. does it not look like a normal picture to you??? *wondering*

Happy Birthday Mum!!

Saturday 12 February 2011 10:20

It's weekend and it's my Birthday!!! ^_^ Well, Happy Birthday to me!!

Most of the people around the world will never forget their own birthday. For them, their birthday is important as it shows how long they have been living in this world. However, do you know that your birthday is just nothing compare to your mother who gave birth to you? How many of you would celebrate your birthday with your mother? OR turning your birthday party into your mother's "birthday" party? OR saying thank you to your mother during this day? I wouldn't say there's none cause I believe some of you would at least show your appreciation to your beloved mother during your birthday. At least, I would. =)

Isn't it a shame to ask for a birthday present from your parent when you should be grateful to them? Or hanging out late celebrating your birthday with your friends and coming home late(even never be home), making them worry about your safety? Or feeling mad because your parent forgot about your birthday?

Anyway, it is never too late to say thank you to your parent when they are still around. =)

Thank you mum!!! Happy birthday MUM!!!! I love you! =)